Several times, we feel left out, and this happens when you are most confident that you can trust the person taking names, and that he or she will take your name.

Well, something this happened to me today.

In my organization, I work very hard, like all the team members who were working with the company for decades have left with the systems created, which require constant maintenance.

I was responsible for getting those systems up again, as all the technical people had left the firm. Although there were some managers, who were managing the project that I was working on, all the labor work was mine.

Imagine coding 20,000 lines of code to connect 15 different legacy systems, and then what you hear is an appreciation of managers in the team meeting, and leaving me behind, not even mentioning the fact that a new member who has recently joined had set up a broken system single-handedly.

Why am I telling you this?
I am telling you this because I know you have also been in this situation, and that's why you are here reading this article.

There are people across this globe, and maybe on International Space Station, who are being left out, and there are "n" number of reasons, why this happens.

How does it feel to be left out? or How does it feels when people forget you?
This is not a difficult question to answer, as almost every one of us in this world has felt like this someday.

Do you remember the time when your friends were making some plan, and they didn't include you?

Do you remember your school days when your friends forgot to take you on the soccer team?

Do you remember the day of your college prom, when your best "girl" friend ditched you with some dude that had just asked her for it, even though she had committed you?

Do you remember the day, when your fiancee went with her friends for drinks, and the next morning, when you asked, she just replied, "I forgot"?

These are not the only situations when you might have found yourself being thrown out of the social fabric.

You have been exposed to this abuse every single time you think you are part of a community, and your sense of yourself is bigger than your ness.

You used to think as if you are part of something bigger.

But now you are just a grain of salt lying on the table which is going to be thrown out in the dustbin when someone comes and dusts the table.

You feel as if you don't belong to the community or the human society at all, and this is all because your mental health takes a toll every single time someone neglects you in the middle of something important.

You are broken by the fact that no one loves you, and that no one cares for you.

But why do people forget you?
There should be a proper answer to this question because I believe there is a reason why people feel alone and this is not specific to a culture or country, but everywhere around the world.

Below are some of the reasons, why you are getting rejected everywhere;

1. You don't look smart:
   Well, this is what an interviewer told me when she was taking my interview for a men's clothing retail store.
   
   You look like uncle, she said.
   
   She just wanted to say that you look ugly and that we can't take you on board, because we want fresh graduates, who look smart and have a beautiful personality.
   
   Might be this was true, and some jobs are not meant for everyone, but saying so actually breaks all the confidence, a student has gathered after clearing all the exams and formalities.
    
2. You sound bad:
   You might look average, but you can have a bad sound, and you will never know it because you hear yourself differently when you speak.
   
   Try to understand, have you ever listened to your audio recording? Does it sound weird to you?
   
   This is because, when you speak, you hear through your bones, via vibrations. But when you speak, the air takes your voice to the listener's ears, so the one that you listen to on an audio recording is the correct one, and you are my friend getting neglected because you sound funny.
   
   You can't do much about it, but you can for sure try improving your accent, and that might help you achieve the best possible accent with your sound.
    
3. You are average in everything:
   This is again very simple to understand. Evolution has taught us to be friends with someone more powerful than us or at least at par with us.
   
   But if you are more average than everyone in the room, you end up being neglected.
   
   This is not your fault though, you were not smart, you sounded bad, and now you are not a winner at anything - maybe studies, or maybe your profession. These all things sum up and make you look a fool and that's why they don't remember you.
    
4. You talk a lot:
   I have seen this happening with people who have loose lips. You might have heard about the quote "loose lips sink ships", well that is what has happened to you, my friend.
   
   You speak a lot and don't listen to people, and sometimes you repeat the same things, which makes you look fool again, and hence people don't move ahead with you. They deliberately leave you behind, because they don't want to be with someone who looks stupid.
    
5. You don't belong anywhere:
   This happens to most of us. We don't fit in our studies, or we don't know how to play the guitar. These are the happening things around the world, if you have missed either of them, you are doomed, you are nowhere now.
   
   Sports, Studies, Music, or something that you are good at. You should have a hobby that you can resonate with others and have fun together.
   
   If you haven't found any hobby do it now. Try to see, what you love to do the most, and when you are stressed out, what do you do? 
   Don't include sleeping in your hobby, as no one is going to sleep with you.
    
6. You don't speak sense:
   I am also guilty of this, and I have seen several people who speak nonsense.
   
   You know what I am silent in my corporate meetings because I sound bad, and I don't know what to say. I just speak non-sense.
   
   I have attracted people who are nonsense around me, just because I do so, that's why I have attracted people who are a weight on this earth. Just like me.
   
   To get over this, try to speak less, and let people guess that you are stupid, rather than open your mouth and make them clear that you are stupid.
    
7. You are not rich:
   I have seen people who are dumb and have friends that include them in everything that they do. This is because they have a huge bank balance.
   
   You and me !!! 
   
   We don't have our grandfather's land or money stored in secret vaults. We have a salary account, which gets credited on the 1st and gets depleted on the 2nd of every month.
   
   So why will your friends include you in any party or get-together? They won't do it simply because they are cheap and they want free beers.
    
8. You are an introvert:
   Well, if you have all the other qualities, and you are also an introvert, viola, you have everything that a person can have to get neglected.
   
   Many dumb people are not introverts, and I have noticed, that many smart people are introverts, but if you are not smart, and also don't like to spend time with anyone else, then obviously people are going to slowly and steadily forget you.

So what to do when people forget or neglect you?
Just mind your own business. 

You are not supposed to be a part of their issues when they come up to you in their bad times.

You just have to forgive and forget. No, I am not saying to forgive and keep a grudge against them. Just let it go.

You are forgiving them not for them, but for your own peace.

Have a deal with yourself, that you will be successful and take their rejections as a building block for your success ladder. Just don't be afraid to think about your work, and don't ever get demotivated.

Trust your abilities, and work hard on yourself, as these rejections are for them as they are not ready to be a part of something greater than average.