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How to deal with embarrassment?

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    • Mikhail Agapov

      Embarrassment is something that we all feel at some point in time. It is easy to feel depressed if we are not able to conquer the feeling of embarrassment over time. As time passes, this feeling should get away, or else, it might turn into shame (which occurs because of low self-image).

      But there are several ways by which one can deal with embarrassment;

      1. Learn to laugh at yourself:
        Embarrassing situations can be stressful, and one should know how to deal with them. Laughing at yourself is one of the best ways to get rid of the embarrassing feeling.

        For example, when you did something awkward, you should see that situation as something that can happen to anyone, and remove yourself from that negative feeling.

        I can give you my example, when I went fishing with my in-laws after getting married, I fell into the ocean itself, and that was one of the embarrassing moments for me. I could have thought that my in-laws will think that I am naive and that I don't know simple things, but those feelings would have destroyed my day. 

        Instead, we can learn to laugh at the situations and think that they could have occurred to anyone. This allows you to breathe and is normal.
         
      2. Distract yourself and others:
        When you feel like you are in an awkward situation and you feel embarrassed, you can always change the subject. For example, we can compliment others about their dresses, and distract them to some other topic.
         
      3. Don't overthink:
        Thinking again and again about a single embarrassing memory may lead to depression and low self-confidence. This is similar to holding a glass of water for the whole day - for some time, you won't feel anything, but if you kept holding on to the glass of water for a full day, your hands will collapse for sure.

        This is because when you overthink a situation, you start seeing issues that are not even there at that moment, and you start worrying and this circle goes on forever until you become depressed.
         
      4. Overcome embarrassment with confidence:
        You would have noticed that confident people feel less embarrassed. This is because they know that an embarrassing situation can come to anyone anywhere in life.

        Also, we should not lose our confidence in small things because it is a life that will keep on giving us tough situations, and these situations only make us tough people.
         
      5. Think relationship between perfectionism and embarrassment:
        Is it that the perfectionism that you are running behind is the root cause of embarrassment?

        This can be a reason. One should understand that no one in this world is perfect, and we grow because we are making mistakes to achieve that perfection. Computers are perfect and they don't grow by themselves. They are designed to work on a certain thing, and that's all.
         
      6. You get embarrassed because you try new things:
        Most people that try new things and innovate feel embarrassed, this is because for the first time anyone usually fails, and this also brings a feeling of embarrassment.

        But one should understand that we are feeling that emotion because we are trying something new and innovating as well, and this is a good thing that should not stop us from working hard on our dreams.
         
      7. Understand embarrassment is a feeling:
        When we feel embarrassed, we might feel as if we have lost everything, this happens because we get a feeling of exposure. But this is not true. We should understand that embarrassment is just like any other feeling - may it be sadness, being angry, or being happy.

        When we understand this concept, we can make our decisions and also take less time to get over an embarrassing moment.
         
      8. Share it with someone:
        People have the same experiences worldwide. If you feel embarrassed, try sharing it with your friends or discuss it anonymously on some social media platform.

        Sharing your feelings with people around the world and listening to their experiences will help you know that we all feel embarrassed at one point or another and there are people around the world who may have experienced the same situation as yours.
         
      9. Write what you have felt:
        If you can't stop thinking about an embarrassing feeling, just write it down and read it again. You can create an anonymous blog post or just write it down in a journal.

        This will help you analyze your issue line by line and word by word, and you will feel less embarrassed after doing this.
         
      10. Burn the journal or writeup:
        Once you have written something, and if you feel that it is too embarrassing to be shared with anyone, just burn the paper or journal where you have written it.

        In my culture, it is said that, if you feel bad about something you can write it down on a piece of paper and burn it, and the fire will take that issue with itself, and you will feel better.

        Although it is more of a superstition, people who have tried it, have felt better, as they feel as if the embarrassing moment is burning away from their life.

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