If life is unfair to you ... If life is unfair to me ... If life is unfair to everyone else ... That means ... Life is Fair to all.

Let this quote sink in before we go ahead, and discuss why life is difficult for us.

Life is difficult for everyone these days. One of the main reasons is that we are so very hard on ourselves. One needs to understand that, if you are not feeling comfortable with your own skin, you will find it difficult to live each and every day.

As a reminder to not think more about bad times is by understanding that bad times do not last forever. This is a temporary phase that you are going through, and no one is talking or thinking bad about yourself.

This is really important because most of the time, our life becomes hard as we try to find our peace in what others might think about us, hence working as per their expectations and not yours.

You might look good ... You might be healthy ... But because there are some people in the film industry, who have set some standards, doesn't mean that you will also have to achieve them.

Below are some of the reasons, because of which life feels hard;

1. You compare yourself: This might be because everyone used to compare you when you were small. Your parents in school or college time, your teachers, and even some of your friends.

This imprints a fact that one is always to be compared to another person to measure your success.

Which is wrong. You will have to understand that comparing yourself with other people will only bring doubts to your mind. You will feel doubtful, if you are good enough to opt for a subject in school or if you can work in that company or not.

Instean, try to see your progress with respect to time.

You will see that you have covered a long distance, and you are actually quite successful today. Your present should be better than your past, and if you feel your present somehow seems broken, pick yourself up, and work on the broken pieces. Try to create yourself up with those broken pieces, filling the gaps with required skill sets.

But don't just stay there. Work on yourself.

I would like to give you an example. For me, earning 1 hundred thousand dollars was a really big deal. I had started from $12,000, which was quite low, and then after 2 years of continuous service, I was again in the job market, searching for a job. I completed my training and I was receiving around $33,000.

But this time, I thought of going for higher education and went for MBA. After completion, I got placed with a multinational company for $30,000 only. I worked hard, but the company got bankrupt.

My friends, who had joined the different companies in my batch, were earning for 2 years now and were earning a good amount of money. If I would have compared myself with them, then I would have gone into depression. 

Instead, I picked myself up and started searching for a job again. I had some commitments, for which I had to work, and make money.

Today, I am earning more than $1 Million per month, and then also, it seems there is someone greater than me. Not only my colleagues, but even seniors, who used to work with me are still earning $35,000.

It's not that, I want to demean anyone, but those were the same people who were looking down on me, and today, I don't even hear from them, as I was busy tracking my progress, and never focused on how much they are earning or how good their life was.

Long story short - Don't waste your time comparing yourself with anyone else. Just track your progress with respect to your past and ensure that you are on the growth side. Everything else will be taken care of by the universe.

2. You are not comfortable in your own skin: This again takes us to the comparison part, but this time it is with a twist.

If you are not comfortable in your own skin, you might feel you are not attractive enough, or you are not capable enough to handle a task, or you are too fat to even wear anything formal.

These all things push us backwards.

You will have to take charge and believe in yourself that you are good enough to take any opportunity. You will have to be happy with how you look. You will have to stand in front of the mirror and say, you are handsome or beautiful, and you can achieve whatever you had dreamed for.

3. You are not able to take failures or criticism positively: Well, if you are alive, you have been taking failures or criticism all your life. The question is;

If you have taken criticism or failure positively or not.

This is important to understand. You will find people spitting on your face everywhere in the world, especially in the corporate world.

Therefore, you will have to be ready to accept failures or criticism positively. This is because, if you are affected negatively by someone's comments, then you only will be the one in trouble.

You will feel stressed, which will lead to exhaustion and then depression. 

Understand that the person who is criticizing you might not be in his or her clear mindset. Delay your actions, and don't overthink about it. Behave as if nothing had happened, and that you have moved on.

Fake it Until You Make it

This is a great mantra, and the reason is that as a human, fighting or resistance is not the correct way. One has to practice smiling and behaving normally, as it takes time to become normal.

4. You belittle yourself: This is again a type of self-doubt. This happens, when you think that you don't deserve certain things in life.

Belittling yourself only makes things hard in life, this is because you create a negative mindset.

Remember there will always be someone greater than the greatest.

So, no need to doubt your capabilities. Nobody knows - You can also be that greater.

So why is life hard?
Because we are humans, full of emotions, desires, needs, and fears.

We have bodies that are susceptible to damage. We need food, shelter, and human connection to thrive. We spend our lives filling these needs. Sometimes, however, our assessment of our needs is based on the judgment around us. We evaluate our happiness by comparison.

We decide we need the same amount of money that our neighbors/friends/family have. We judge the size of our home, our bank accounts, the nature of our relationship, and our health based on what we see on social media and TV.

Everyone on social media is happy, in a great relationship, very healthy or having a miracle cure, and making a great deal of money online.

Life is hard because we are worried that we have not done well in our lives.

We are concerned that we are not living up to our potential, living our dream, working in our passion, or planning for retirement. Life is hard because we want more and believe that we are already failing.

We are sure that we are supposed to know our passion and that if we "do what we love the money will follow".

In reality, we are doing fine, we are humans in a world full of challenges and gifts. At times we have to deal with human struggles. At times we can recognize how blessed we are.

When we focus on the positive, life feels easier. When we focus on feeling alone, and all that we do not have, life becomes hard.

Remember,

"Failure is the condiment, that enhances the flavor of Success"